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Hello all!
It was so empowering to see you all yesterday and share your results after just one week. What was even more influential was the smiles that I saw on your faces as you shared your one week progress with each other. As I have read the blogs (and more and more people have been posting since you were scolded...haha), I have noticed one thing. THE POWER THAT WE HAVE WHEN WE STICK TOGETHER AS A GROUP! This made me think. We have talked about sabotaging thoughts, well how about sabotaging people! Who are the people you spend most of the time with? The answer for most of us is simple, our families! Most of the time, our families do not mean to sabotage our goals, however, they can do it without even knowing. I shared with you that it was very hard for me at home. Having a pregnant wife with cravings and sickness when eating certain foods has made it very difficult. This morning, she made my day. She was heading out to the grocery store, which in recent history has not been a good thing for me. She would come home with pretzels, breads, basically alot of stuff i could not eat, and it was downright deflating. Before she left today she told me she was getting back on the Paleo train! We all do not have people willing to eat the way we do, or go to the gym with us. So here is my thought and advice to you. If you have these people in your home, that may be "accidentally stubborn" with your new lifestyle, you need to make them aware. Aware of why you are doing this. Aware of how the environment and comments may be sabotaging. Aware of how much you love them and want to be around the. And make them aware of how this journey is not only going to impact you in a positive way, but them as well. You cant do this alone. You have us at the gym whenever you need. You have your bracelet to look at whenever the need arises. However, we are not with you when you get home from work. We are not with you before you go to bed at night. Those you love and live with are. Making them aware, and having their support come come down, simply put, to you succeeding or failing. You have come so far in just this one week! Sit down with those people and make them AWARE! Please share your thoughts and advice for those who may be struggling with this same issue. How would you deal with this? How have you dealt with this? Remember, positive is powerful!
32 Comments
shannon
1/13/2013 04:29:13 am
When i talked about the paleo diet to my family everyone tuned thier ears off just another diet for the new year! but ive changed the way i delivered it(not about weight loss its about being healthy) and they are all responding in a more positive way. They are seeing it's not much of a struggle to stay away from the crap like it used to be and they are seeing the diffrence in my skin and mood!thanks coaches for introducing this life change to me and my family.lets see what week 2 has to offer!!!!
Ryan
1/13/2013 04:33:49 am
That is exactly the kind of support that leads to success! I am so glad that you got your family on board Shannon! Keep up the great work.
Connie S
1/13/2013 05:38:24 am
Unlike some of you, I don't have family to put any kind of sabotaging thoughts in my head or bring in any sabotaging food in the house. I do all the grocery shopping & my son eats whatever I buy. Now some of you may think that I have it good or I am lucky not to have the sabotaging outsiders but I have my own "challenges". This also means I don't have the at home support, either. I am my own support & but also my own sabotager at times. For me, coming to the meetings & taking classes at the gym are my lifesavers. Being around the positive people, hearing their suggestions and seeing the progress people have made that have been doing the program for sometime already is what keeps me going and focused.
Lisa D
1/13/2013 08:42:16 am
I am BLOGGING. YEAH:)))
Doug N
1/13/2013 08:49:18 am
The run walk group is easily in your reach. That is the whole point of it. No matter what level you are at you can come join us. You go at your pace. You already go as a group to get your fruits and veggies so come walk with us first then go do that.
Connie S
1/13/2013 09:10:56 am
Lisa, Doug is sooo right!! Don't wait until YOU think you are ready for the running/walking group. You are ready now!! Everybody starts & finishes together. You walk or run or a combination of both at your own pace. Then when you are finished with the running/walking group, the 3 of you can go for your fruit & veggies. Hope to see you at running club!!
Ann
1/13/2013 08:59:53 pm
Connie, I admire your strength to do what you are doing at home and to be so open and honest about your feelings! You rock!
Kristen Z.
1/13/2013 06:04:41 am
I do have someone who is not too willing to eat my way. However I cook for myself and them. Not totally separate meals but if we have steak I make them the french fries and myself baked cauliflower. Simple substitutes and some days - they just need to deal. :) Haven't really had any complaints expect for them saying "You just need to write down for me what you can eat!"
amy
1/13/2013 08:50:36 am
My husband is very supportive. We were watching Tv together Sat night and rather than bring his snack into the family room where we were watching Tv he ate his snack in the kitchen. The snack was NOT on the caveman diet. He didn't want to temp me.
Connie S
1/13/2013 09:13:01 am
That is awesome Amy!!
Ann
1/13/2013 09:08:21 pm
I am the food shopper and cook at my house, so far my husband has no complaints about the food. He doesn't like sweet potatoes so I just make him the other ones when I am having sweet potatoes. My children don't live at home anymore but all of them are very heath conscience so they are very supportive. I GRATEFUL for them!
Lisa C
1/13/2013 09:26:18 pm
My home support team is my husband. He agreed to change his eating for the most part, but was very negative about the whole thing. I talked him into the run/walk club saturday, and after seeing the energy from everyone he is totally on board! It also helps that he has lost 10 lbs.
Heidi S
1/14/2013 08:53:37 am
Wow that is awesome! Congratulations!
Connie S
1/13/2013 09:32:42 pm
Yesterday I was saying how I really don't have any sabotagers at home but man I forgot about the coworkers!! ughhh!!! I was having a very emotional & challenging night at work. They had 3 muskateer bars in the vending machine & I wanted one so bad. The good part is that I didn't get the candy bar BUT I ended up eating crackers somebody brought in. UGHH!!! And I did so good the whole day until I got to work. So, the night is over & I ate the food. All I can do is make today a better day.
Ryan
1/13/2013 09:38:47 pm
Very good point Connie! I have birthday kids bringing me cupcakes all the time! You made a "better" choice. Sure it wasnt paleo, but you chose the lesser of two evils and realize that you have the chance to make up for it. Well done!
Kristen Z.
1/14/2013 09:40:37 am
Being a teacher is so hard with these kids are their birthdays! They should know not to come to my room by now :)!
Heidi S
1/14/2013 08:58:29 am
My office is next to the snack room and people and patients are always bringing cookies and cakes and they call out to me. Love them! So I started planning ahead. I carry jerky or a Lara bar and if the cravings come I have a fall back plan that gives satisfaction because I am eating, but it is also giving me more time to think if I really want to sabotage myself.
Heidi S
1/14/2013 08:58:36 am
My office is next to the snack room and people and patients are always bringing cookies and cakes and they call out to me. Love them! So I started planning ahead. I carry jerky or a Lara bar and if the cravings come I have a fall back plan that gives satisfaction because I am eating, but it is also giving me more time to think if I really want to sabotage myself.
Karen Skorochod
1/14/2013 12:58:43 am
Well, I have had a rough time over the past year with the sabotagers, let me tell you.
Heidi S
1/14/2013 09:01:52 am
Thanks for sharing Karen, you are an inspiration!
Kim
1/14/2013 10:26:12 am
I have so Much respect and admiration for you Karen! For years I have been going to the gym and worked so hard to go home and sabotage the workout by eating junk. I don't know why I do this but I am praying I can break this distructive behavior with the help of DF gang.
Karen Skorochod
1/14/2013 12:03:28 pm
Thank you all and you can do it....I am not as special as Mr. Rogers said I was LOL - but day by day I'm doing it and you can too.
Linda "Kandoit"
1/14/2013 01:37:07 am
On Sunday I planned on going to the gym, I was all dressed and ready to leave and my husband says "Can we go to Cabela's" I gently reminded him that I was heading to the gym and we couldn't do both but we can do it next weekend. I have to keep reminding my guys about my goals and what I am doing and their statements and actions are not supportive. This just gives them a double take and we are good. So Far ?
Ann
1/14/2013 02:39:03 am
'My husband is supportive as long as this journey is not about "diet". We have a daughter who had an eating disorder so dieting is a huge bad thing in our house. When I told him it was all about a healthy life style he became very accepting and supportive.
Connie B
1/14/2013 03:03:23 am
I, for the most part, have the support of my family. I am, like Connie S., my own worst enemy. Yesterday was a very hard day for me emotionally, I just had to keep telling myself I didn't need the foods (like the cinnabons that my son brought home the other night, ugh) and I lasted all day until we went to supper with my other son and I order that darn cherry crumb pie. I knew I didn't need it, ordered it anyway, and afterward was asking myself why I did it. It didn't do anything for me other than make me kick myself for eating it!!! I could have had a larabar, and been more satisfied.
Christina Pearson
1/14/2013 06:25:55 am
My husband is pretty supportive. I don't think he intentionally sabotages me, but occasionally he'll offer me something off limits, just out of habit. I do have to buy snacks for him and our 4-year-old son which I would prefer not to have in the house, but so far I've resisted by snacking on almonds or another acceptable food. We have always eaten fairly healthy foods (even the 4-year-old loves broccoli!), and I'm trying to just make mild adjustments so we can eat close to the same meals (ie. chicken fajitas...they get the wraps, I put it on romaine.)
Dekota
1/14/2013 09:11:47 am
Ryan I am really glad you posted this. Allison and I have each other here at home to support each other. When we first came to sign up for the gym I didnt plan of doing the program. You and Kerri sold me when you told us about it. The main thing that change my mind was I didnt think I would be suportive to Allison if I didnt give it a try as well. I am really glad that I did decide to do. I have a lot more energy and I feel better. I am really excited to look back on this journey a year from now and see all of our progress. We have gotten a lot of questions from both of our families but I think for the most part they understand why we are doing it.
Ryan
1/14/2013 09:47:21 am
I am so glad you did Dekota! And i am sure Allison is too. Also happy that you are able to enjoy your journey together. Keep up the great work and positive attitude.
Doug N.
1/21/2013 01:08:20 am
Dekota, I'm very glad you decided to do it. I too was in the same boat with nikki wanting to do it and if i didnt get on board I would be questioning it a lot and not be happy. Now I feel sometimes im more into than she is. The support you give allison im sure is very helpful and in return you too are supported. This is def. a life style change but all for the better!!!!
KB
1/14/2013 10:18:50 am
Last week I did great! Yea! Down 5 pounds with good eating and many classes. My brother & son are staying with me for 10 days And I'd like to spend as much time with them as I can. I did hit spin tonight But my eating isn't as clean. Back on track tomorrow!
Deb
1/14/2013 10:42:53 am
Its just me and my hubby too who knows I want to make this a lifestyle change and he is great with what I have been making like stuffed cabbage or hulupkies and experimenting with other recipes he's willing to try. My issue are my other interests playing pool in leagues and bowling. The environment is tempting to stray but it is powerful when I chose to drink water bowling Sat night instead of wine. The only thing is when friends come up and say water? and you have to explain yourself and then you think they are judging you but POSITIVE IS POWERFUL
Tanya S
1/14/2013 10:53:15 am
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