Great meeting #3!

5/27/2013

Great meeting!! So proud of you all for attending!! Those that couldn't attend due to prior obligation, we understand. If you just skipped... I'm really bummed you missed the meeting, I hear it was a good one ;-)
Topic if tonight, the phrase... "Oh,Well!"
Yes... Change is difficult! Yes, we get discouraged: it's bc creating new improves habits is hard!! So.. Say to yourself, just as you pay your bills, wash the dishes, "take a shower" oh, well! I've got to do this. If I want to achieve my goals, this period of discomfort and discouragement will disappear and my lasting results will feel so much better!
Don't allow yourself to build up your negative bank: and poison your positive... Fill up your positive pot!!! ONE DAY AT A TIME! What have you done TODAY to get you closer to achieving your goals?!
Acknowledge your sabotaging thoughts : write them down and ask what was I just thinking at this moment?
Please let me know your thoughts following the meeting? What did you take away from the meeting tonight? Share!!!
Ps... I came home and Sean had guacamole pico de gallo style, sweet potato chips, shrimp and chicken sausage for us! See... "He isn't Paleo" ;-) but he is certainly making more and more Paleo decisions for himself!

33 Comments

Lisa C

5/27/2013 08:57:37 pm

Loved the meeting!
The thing that stuck with me was the fact that not being able to take a compliment was a negative thought. I am trying to be positive about everything and I think I am doing a good job. But, I do have a problem taking a compliment. I am a "Thanks, but...." kind of person. That is something I didn't even realize I needed to work on.
Thanks Kerri!

Laura

5/27/2013 10:46:09 pm

Sorry I missed it. :( I am doing well
Ayickung to pale I and loving it. I will bring some new recipes on Monday to share. His many do we have on pale?

Kelly

5/27/2013 10:53:26 pm

So figured out how to list it on my phone like An app woohoo so I can blog more ... Told Kerri this morning at cross train that I had this ahah moment where I was like omg I'm having sabotaging. Thoughts .... I realized that I can be really positive on the outside but inside I still let my negative voice rule ... I must tell it to go away I have to acknowledge what I have accomplished ... I can do this :)

Connie

5/28/2013 05:36:45 am

The meeting was awesome. As most of you know this is my third round at this. I missed a few meetings the first two times, thinking "I got this", "I don't need to go to every meeting, what's the big deal". Well I can say that the meetings are extremely important and helpful. I am asking people more questions, being a royal pain in the butt to Kerri and my mentors with my text messages, but so far this is working pretty darn good!!! I am so glad I stuck with it and for me the third time is the charm. My problem is not the exercise, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the many different classes I have been picking up in addition to my normal cross-training classes. My problem has always been to drink more water, I am working on that. My food chocies have been pretty much on target with a cheat here and there. I am so excited and pumped for this new me to develop and bloom. Got to get rid of the negativity, and that too is getting much better. As Kerri says "baby steps". Thanks Kerri for your faith in all of us and for that push you give to each and every one of us.

I had my grandson's graduation from pre-school today and they had ice cream (make your own sundaes), sprinkles, chocolate syrup, etc and cookies and pretzels. I am so proud of myself for turning down the numerous offers of "have something". My son and I then went to Panera Bread for lunch and I got a salad and soup with water!!!!!

Melissa B link

5/28/2013 08:45:31 am

Wow... some pretty awesome stuff being said.This will probably be the hardest thing Ive ever done for myself but I am reaching out to the blog for help.My day at work was awful.When it was over I felt really hungry AGAIN.I think I took self sabatoge to a new level. I have pretty much eaten everthing in the house NOT paleo.Im feeling like Im not losing Im starving so whats the point. I skipped my class at the gym consiously.Honestly is there any help for me with Paleo. I mean I managed to get through a picnic yesterday with not one cheat to just blow it all today. I am So STRESSED.

Ryan H

5/28/2013 09:49:42 am

Melissa,
As a long time Paleo peep, I have realized one thing. I will never be fully Paleo. I wont be able to live without my cheese, I still have ezekiel bread (sprouted grains) a few times a week. Youve got to make this something that works for you. Of course you will have to work for it in return to make it work, but it sounds like you are putting too much stress on yourself.
Dont even try to go full bore if you are struggling. Youve got to live with the 80/20 rule. Make paleo choices 80% of the time, and eat normally the other 20%. The key to the other 20% though is making those healthy, conscious decisions. They dont have to be all healthy, but in your given situation, try to make the healthiest choice available.
At home, hide all of the things you know you shouldnt be eating. Obviously in the home setting, you cant avoid all non paleo foods because not everyone in the house will believe in your new lifestyle, however, if the food is not out in the open, you are less likely to eat it.
Staty strong and remember, positive is powerful!

5/28/2013 08:55:57 pm

Melissa
Focus on small changes like Ryan is saying I also know that I will never be 100% paleo but I know paleo is more realistic fore than simple solutions bc I don't feel deprived ...try to look at what you can cut out and replace with something healthier ... Like since paleo started I haven't had any potato chips something I thought I couldn't live without but don't even miss now ... You can do it !!

Lynn

5/28/2013 11:16:48 am

This will be a long-winded post...I really needed the meeting yesterday. My sister moved to California last Monday and the past week was a serious roller coaster for me, I mean i went from manic to catatonic more than once. I somehow managed to get in 5 workouts throughout the week though, and didn't cheat at all with food (i am amazed that no cheating occurred). But by the time yesterday rolled around, i had a hard time moving from the couch, washing my hair seemed impossible. The last thing i felt like doing was surrounding myself with people. I wanted to pull the covers over my head, cutch up to my doggie and stay there until i finished crying myself to sleep. But i felt an obligation to go to the meeting, i made a commitment, and the one thing that trumps all other feelings i feel is the idea of being a disappointment. So i got myself a shower, and i made it out the door. Thank God i went to that meeting.
Kerri, you have no idea how much it means that you share so much of yourself with us. So many of the things you talk about make me think "oh my God, that's EXACTLY how i feel, or that's what's happened to me, or i have thought the same thing too many times to count." the shower thing alone- i hate hate hate having to shower, not so much because of the shower but because of the "getting ready" after. My point is that these are all of the things that i have never said out loud, but you say them out loud to us and then i feel like maybe i'm a little more normal then i thought, maybe there are actually people that can understand all of the things that i've struggled with my entire life.
I left the meeting feeling renewed. I lost weight from last week and found new motivation in the words of everyone there. I hardly ate yesterday-out of sadness- and had no energy for cross train this morning, which made it feel 10X harder than it needed to, so today when i got home from work i went to the kitchen and didn't leave until i had food prepared for the week, so i will have no choice but to eat even if i feel too sad to, because i can't waste food!
I'm taking a DEEP breath and moving forward. I'm not sure i'd be doing that if i hadn't gone to the meeting. I even stopped myself from brushing off a compliment today...

5/28/2013 09:00:49 pm

Lynn that's so awesome ... I know part of the reason I have been at dedicated fitness is the fact that I can relate to Kerri and she has been an amazing support to me throughout challenges ... She gets it and I can let her know what my negative voice is saying and she helps me through ... Kerri now has the ability to just look at me and know what kind of day I'm having and that is priceless

Adrianne

5/29/2013 12:31:47 am

Lynn, you made me cry!! You should be so proud of yourself. You are not alone!!! We all have those feelings at times. Keep writing in your journal or make this blog your journal. Sometimes it helps to just get your feelings/thoughts out there. I believe that the reason that Kerri works so well for ALL of us is that she has been through it all herself and then some!! And she is such a STRONG person because of her adversities. We couldn't ask for a better role model.
Keep up the good work!!

Kerri Jahelka

5/30/2013 01:35:02 am

I agree with Adriann! You made me cry too! You rock and I am proud of you!! Good work cutting up and preparing food! Great job getting to that most important meeting! Yay!

5/29/2013 12:26:05 am

Can anyone relate to being extremely hungry in like 2 hrs after eating on Paleo. If so how do you handle it?

5/29/2013 01:35:02 am

Melissa,
I'm not sure what the rules are for how often you should eat on Paleo. I have noticed that eating Paleo makes me very full with less food, but i am definitely ready to eat 2-3 hrs later. So i do, i just make sure that what i'm eating is good for me. I personally like to eat crunchy vegetables that take a lot of chewing, like carrots and radishes. and cucumbers and tomatoes fill me up a lot, maybe because of their high water content? I also like to chew on beef jerky for a snack.
Also, constantly drinking water helps me, and i mean constantly. i keep 80 ounces of water with me throughout the day and sip from my bottle every couple of minutes. I used to struggle to get 30 ounces of water in during the day, and now i don't even think about it because it's just a sip or two, but it's often.
I don't know if any of that will work for you, but that's how i deal with hunger, i hope it helps!

Karen S.

5/29/2013 03:31:37 pm

For me, if I'm extremely hungry in 2-3 hrs, it means I did not eat until I was truly full the first time - it's easy enough to do, you think you are full, but something distracting happens and pretty soon you are pushing away from the table. This happens to me more after several days of hard workouts in succession, my body knows what it needs and that is more nutritious fuel, but distractions pop up and then I end up eating more times in a day than I would have if I listened to my body's signals.

5/29/2013 05:47:40 am

Melissa, I started Paleo in January. When I started I was hungry all the time, so I ate. I was eating almost an entire small container of mixed greens, 3 eggs, 2 heads of broccoli and 1 to 1 1/2 pounds of meat a day. I'm sure I ate more than I listed, I can not remember it all. Now, 5 months in, I only eat half of that. My understanding of Pale is eat when you are hungry until you are full. Learning when you are full is harder than it sounds. The way Kerri said to do it is great. Eat, wait a little and eat more if you are still hungry. The first month or two, I ate constantly but I was eating the right things. One great thing I discovered was organic coconut oil. Everything about it is wonderful for mind and body, and it curbs appetite. I put a tablespoon in my tea or eat it by the spoonful. They recommend 2 or 3 tablespoons a day. I hope this helps.

Deb Kresge

6/2/2013 12:20:17 pm

Lisa, I started trying the organic coconut oil in my tea in the morning and it really does curb your appetite for a good portion of the day. I feel actually better in the morning after drinking my tea! Thanks for everyone's posts, I look for them for my daily encouragement.

5/30/2013 12:26:50 am

Thank you for all the positive feedback.My next question is I am a habitual get on the scale every morning type of person. I have been disappointed daily since feb. Today I am up 2 1/2 lbs. Yet when putting on my shorts they were quite loose compared to last time. I am considering getting rid of my scale however I am afraid I might not recognize if I gain weight.I read stress definitely plays a part in all this and I have plenty of it. Any suggestions?

5/30/2013 01:22:04 am

Melissa! I, now that I am able to understand my weight fluctuations, am able to go on the scale everyday. In the past the number of the scale would defeat me, deflate me, and cause me to give up oh and sabotage myself w very poor decisions... However, I have learned now that our bodies as women will fluctuate at least 3-4pounds up and down: all while the overall weight is coming down. I find after very intense exercise my body is usually heavier if I didn't eat enough following or hydrate enough. Before, I wouldn't make any progress bc seeing the number go up and equate that to all my hard work would cause me to eat Terribly and be lazy. Now I know I need to be patient bc in a few days my body will regulate what I've done and my weight comes back to normal or lower.
Your body composition is changing so that means your body size is changing but sometimes the scale doesn't change at the same rate. So if I measured your body fat percent before and now, it will be lower; but that doesn't mean your weight will.
Keep calm you are doing great things for yourself. Bc you are struggling, you are learning lasting habits that will not be broken. Of course this is challenging, and I'm proud of you for continuing to battle... Bc this small time frame of disappointment and frustration will be nothing compared to what you accomplish by seeing it through!
Keep vocalizing! Good work girl!

5/30/2013 04:54:20 am

Only you can decide if you really need that scale. I joke that my husband left last September and took the scale - he is obsessed with it, but I haven't replaced it. I know my body and how I feel and how my clothes fit.

As a compromise, you can do what I used to do - put the scale away in a closet so it isn't staring you in the face each day. Then you could do like Kerri and get it out periodically as an accountability "check up" if you are scared.

Does the number really matter that much if your shorts are loose and you are feeling great :)

Heather Lake

5/30/2013 04:00:21 am

Awesome support y'all!!!! keep is going. I too try to eat every 2-3 hours which adds up to 6-7 times per day but if I am hungary sooner I eat. Though I am not fully paleo i have have been doing a version of. I also drink at least a gallon of water per day, so that helps me to stay satified. Don't feel bad if you are not eating perfect as Kerri said none of us are...I just finished a 4 day bender with ice cream and chocolate syrup...and not the paleo friendly kind either! One day for me opens up the flood gates...even though i need to allow cheats after all these years, experience and knowledge...etc from time to time we all lose our way. The ability to shut the door and keep to your resolve to live a healthy lifestyle will always win out! Believe in yourself...Be positive:)

5/30/2013 06:25:28 am

Heather, it was so wonderful speaking with you last night about this subject! I know that I feel pressure now that I am "experienced and knowledgeable" to be "perfect" with my eating. But I am human, just like you. Sometimes we do make horrible choices even if we have all the tools at our disposal. Let's help each other get on track with our eating and exercise!

5/30/2013 11:26:28 am

I was having a pretty bad day today. If I had my way i would have just gone home after work and sat on the couch for the rest of the night. But there's no choice right? I was signed up for spin n tone, so i went and i feel like i sweated out all of the bad from my day. It completely turned my day around. I went to the grocery store, i planted flowers that have been moaning and groaning on my patio, and i ate a healthy dinner. And reading everyone's posts also puts a fire under my butt. We can all do this! I'm now looking forward to the weekend, which is so much better than how i had been feeling.

5/30/2013 02:43:00 pm

"Sweated out all of the bad" - Love it Lynn! Amazing application of the positive attitude right there, good for you.

kelly

5/31/2013 02:08:54 am

thats awesome lynn so proud of you!!

5/31/2013 12:49:54 am

so i had this awesome post about the scale and it disappeared... ... start with a big positive i have been no where close to being paleo like in the past couple weeks but i am really focusing on my mental garbage but all day today i have been more on track with consciously saying yes or no if i really want something and how it will affect my body... but my scale rant from the other day was this... i got on the scale the other day and it was not what i would have liked to see... in the past this would have led to binge like behaviors , crying, feeling sorry for myself, and just giving up... instead this time i said ok you know why that scale says that and you have choices to make you can continue what you are doing and make things worse or you can be more conscious of what you are doing and stop things... then i identified that positives in my life... i am working out consistently, i enjoy my body as it is at this moment no matter what the scale says... i am not letting my life be dominated by food... i have been bulimia free for over 2 years now ( i have a wicked history of eating disorders and exercise addiction) i am in a happy and satisfying relationship with someone who loves me as i am, I have two wonderful dogs, a supportive family, and a beautiful home.... this challenge is not about a scale or weightloss its about me as a whole person... and a whole person is more than a number ... and that is what i am enjoying about this journey... Kerri and everyone at dedicated fitness is so amazing and i know that whatever comes my way i have a team who will g et me through... sorry for the long winded post....

5/31/2013 02:39:28 am

Kelly, this was an awesome post! It really helps to give a perspective on where you are coming from and your own struggles. First of all, congratulations on being in recovery from that eating disorder. That is simply HUGE! You sound completely on the right track - working with the mental aspect and over time incorporating more and more until you get where you want to be. I lived for many years with someone suffering from binge-eating disorder and do realize how deep-seated disordered eating can be. It could have taken over your whole life, but you put a stop to it!

Congratulations on your hard work at the gym! Build those muscles and you will get the results you are looking for. So glad you are proud of your body right now, because you should be :)

Have a wonderful weekend!

lynn

5/31/2013 07:40:26 am

What a great post. Thank you for sharing!

5/31/2013 01:09:02 pm

Ive had a really trying week all the way around.My greatest stress was my job. I was stressed out and feeding that stress with food.Today I quit. Just like that. This will definitely add new stress.But NO MORE EXCUSES. NO MORE NEGATIVITY. I know I can and I will do this. I have come too far to go back. Tomorrow is a new day, a new chance and I GOT THIS!

6/1/2013 06:15:53 am

YES YOU DO!!! Keep up the good work everyone!!

6/2/2013 10:07:21 pm

Why is the negative man on my shoulder getting louder! I am so not wanting to go to cross fit today but I am pushing myself.

6/3/2013 01:51:30 am

Laura,
Definitely go to class! i know that for me, when i don't feel like going, that is exactly when i need it the most. You will be so glad that you made yourself go.

6/3/2013 11:52:15 am

So today I had in mind .. Ill just be getting back from vacation ill skip this meeting so I txt Kerri And got the answer "be there" and guess what I was there and made the time ... I am very focused on the mental part of this at the moment and not the scale so one thing I realized today was I haven't bitten my nails in two weeks ..

6/3/2013 12:09:30 pm

Wow! Awesome Kelly!!!

Great meeting #3!

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