I kept fighting to see the light, but all I could see was darkness...
How I got through the past few months, isn’t a matter of luck it’s a matter of hope, courage and hard work.
My home was becoming a mess, my work was suffering, I was becoming a mess; my mind and body were suffering. Somehow I managed to get myself to show up for work, to go through the motions but other than that, I was sleeping life away. It was getting more and more difficult to want to do anything: I didn't feel like eating, exercising, socializing, or working. Everything and anything seemed like a monstrous ordeal.
My former behavioral therapist told me that one day I’d be really challenged, that I’d be thrown off course, and all my progress would be put to the test… I answered "that can’t happen because I don’t know how I’ll make it through". She assured me it would happen, and i would make it through.
Well, Tina, it’s seven years later and you were right.
I was starting to become hopeless again -
In everyday, there lies opportunity.
I end each day reflecting and begin each day with positive affirmations.
When I rise, I redirect my negative thoughts by turning them into more positive thoughts, feelings and actions!
When i rise, I tell myself it is going to be a great day!
I create my happiness by choosing my attitude and choosing my reactions to everything that happens throughout the day.
I used to loathe the idea of dragging myself to work at 5am on Monday morning until I changed my thinking. I changed how I approached the day, I now love 5am Monday morning.
I choose to look at the opportunities of each day from a different perspective. Instead of: waking up and immediately determining how long it is until I get to go back to sleep, dreading the idea of completing all the activities of the day ahead, starting my day with negative thoughts, I start by using positive words and actions.
I think about how I can use my job to make a difference in the lives of the people I encounter.
I get to make a difference on Monday morning,
I get to inspire, encourage and motivate my team.
I get to help others set their day up,
I get to help others prepare to unleash their potential that hour, that day, that week.
I choose to believe there are good intentions, I choose to trust, I choose to be hopeful.
If you are feeling stuck,
Try approaching each day with the idea that each day is filled with opportunities:
to make a difference,
to inspire those around you to reach more of their potential,
to create happiness,
to create the best year of your life…
When you work hard each day at helping others, your are becoming the best version of you!
“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.
Nothing can be done without hope and confidence” Helen Keller
Believe it or not, it's real.
It is believed we* have triggers that set these things off, but I've been working for years on learning what those triggers are and how to deal with them before they cause a malfunction.
Over time, I've learned what sets me off and what keeps things working orderly.
I haven't overcome all that challenges me, but I've got a pretty good grip on most of it.
I am here, but really where am I ?
I take my medicine (which I fought for years to do, but now I never miss a dose), take my vitamins, eat clean healthy balanced meals/snacks, and exercise daily. I think positively, i speak positively (I don't see through rose colored glasses, I just choose to make the best of a situation) and I work on faith, hope and love daily... blah blah blah ... the point is, I haven't given up. I work hard everyday at controlling my mental health.
What happened... a traumatic event or events?
So Why is this happening?
back in November, I completed the marathon which I had been preparing for all year, talk about setting myself up for a high/low crash! This led into the next month of "off-season" recovery for training which means not much running or intense exercise sessions. My routine was shaken; holiday's, days off, different foods, altered sleep schedules. To top it off, my best buddy died.
I miss the love and interaction we had day in and out. Oh, and lack of sunshine doesn't help when you are solar powered. Now even the small triggers, like social interaction, confrontations, money talk, obstacles etc seem ginormous to me as well.
I still thought I had it under control
Finding the positive is this...
Only one way to truly change your life... When you are ready, you will know!
Do you skip meals?
Do you drink water all day?
Do you eat something 20min before you workout?
What about after you workout, please tell me you consume something within 30min?
Are you aware of how much carbohydrate, protein and fat you consume?
Do you know what healthy fats are?
Do you know why we need carbs, proteins and fats as well as vitamins and minerals?
Do you use food to fuel your body or to satisfy a feeling?
When you learn how to eat, and you combine this healthy eating and exercise, you send your metabolism soaring! Everyday is an opportunity to become a little bit better, so start now, it's never too late to get started! Small changes create lasting results!
You will send your metabolism soaring!
Change your perspective on what food is, it truly is your best medicine.
Change your perspective on what food is, it truly is your best medicine.
If you eat what someone else tells YOU to eat and
Become the best version of you!
I have lived it and understand it! I've tried to out exercise a bad diet, I've tried to count calories, eat foods labeled diet, low fat or fat free, I've tried eliminating carbs... and I may have had some results but never anything permanent because
I NEVER FELT WHY MY BODY NEEDS REAL FOOD
or how much better it could feel!
Much like an overweight, out of shape, doctor... he/she knows what the body needs in order to be healthy but it doesn't mean they themselves are practicing what they preach, for whatever their personal reasons.
Similarly, I have been educated about food and exercise! I've earned top honors when receiving my Bachelor of Science in Exercise Science, I certified with National certifying organizations, I am educated... but education is very different when implementing it! It seems my mindset wasn't in the right place at the time to understand the importance of implementing it for myself. I think the key is not only knowing what to do, but taking control of your mind and finding a reason why... then decide your priorities and do what is necessary to achieve that feeling!
When I changed my perspective on food, when I decided to choose food as fuel, instead of eating to simply satisfy a feeling, when I decided not to fear food, but to rather embrace food, I figured out how to create lasting results, I found a healthier, happier version of me! Food has helped me control my anxiety and depression, it has greatly decreased the amount of sick time I have, my energy level is higher, my joints don't pain me as terribly and I sleep better! Food has assisted in helping me become a better athlete and greatly reduced the onset of aging and the biology that will occur happens at a much slower rate!
It's not easy to just change your habits... it takes a tremendous amount of effort to leave your comfort zone, to push through the frustrations and desires to "just do what you have always done," it take work.
Take control of your mind!
LASTING CHANGES ARE CREATED OVER TIME...
THERE ARE NO SHORT CUTS...
The thing is, if you start to think of what you can do for your body if you choose to fuel it with proper nutrition rather than focusing on what you have to give up, you are setting yourself up to enjoy the journey rather than loathe the process.
YOU CAN FEEL BETTER!
You Can Be Better!
You need to take some time to learn more about food, use a basic outline, define your priorities, and take action. Exercising must be paired with proper nutrition in order to see physical and mental changes.
The thing is, if you start to think of what you can do for your body if you choose to fuel it with proper nutrition rather than focus on what you have to give up, you are setting yourself up to enjoy the process. You can choose to make it a priority and make the necessary improvements to your "diet" or you can continue to be comfortable and make limited gains in your health, even though you are working so hard on becoming more fit! All the hard work you do, day in and day out, make it more effective by learning about REAL FOOD and choosing to USE FOOD to make everything better for you and your family!
When the time is right, you will know...
I am not the trainer who wants to assist you in getting drastic results in a short amount of time, for I know those results are not long lasting, nor do they include "real life living." I am the trainer who wants to help you learn habits for improving your life. Having a healthier lifestyle means less chance of developing sickness or disease, improving blood pressure, bone density, heart health. It means having more energy to get more out of each day, to keep up with your family, to take back your life, to control addiction, to engage in new experiences, decrease depression, anxiety, and pain to name a few things.
Give me a year, and your life will change! What have you got lose, time is going to pass either way!
Join me in healthy living! I can get you started with the basic guidelines, some of you may need to seek additional professional help from a registered dietician.
What is your Vision?
...Until then, I keep searching, fighting back, believing there has to be more!
Recently, I believe the universe has been speaking to me. I've found myself feeling sheltered, stagnant, and generally unhappy.
Oh, there are things in my life that make me happy, but overall I'm not at peace with my life. I'm the hippie, brought up in a conservative world, living a mostly conservative life!
Are You Listening?
Are You Living in the Moment
or racing through life?
I really try to listen to what's happening around me, listen to my surroundings.
For example, all of a sudden, my Instagram has had many new followers, most reminding me that the world is much bigger! I am reminded that there truly are happy, peaceful, kind people out there and there are absolutely beautiful places too! I hope one day to visit some of these places that I'm intimidated to visit due to language barriers. This reminder of a bigger world, inspires me to continue to travel, to work hard daily so I can travel and see these beautiful destinations, and meet more amazing people!
One more lesson comes to me from my nephew, 8 year old Sean! I was explaining to him that his younger cousin Ben absolutely adores him and it's important he make time to play with Ben. My lesson came when I was explaining to Sean that Ben felt about Sean the way he would feel if he got to play with someone he deems amazing, like a star athlete... This is when he stopped me and said, "oh, you mean like you Aunt Kerri?" Instantly, I was reminded to push on...because to this child I am that important!
BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOU!
As I continue to work on keeping myself on the positive track, I have systems in place to help me, especially during difficult times. Some things I do include the following: everyday I look up people that inspire me for motivation, I listen to something moving, I read about what interests me, I look at pictures that inspire me, I attempt to eat a balanced diet, I train with purpose and intention, I focus on the positives, not the negatives, I limit social media time instead I try to learn something new, I rest, I smile, I listen, I help other people to become better, I call my family... all of these things are helping me to be positive, to become better, to find more!
What inspires you?
Are you doing anything to become better
or are you just going through the motions?
Being mindful means being present.
Are you living in the moment, really appreciating what you are doing, who you are speaking with, what you are experiencing at that very moment, or are you too busy moving quickly just trying to get through everything life throws at you?
Do you finish a meal without really tasting it?
Do you finish a conversation and have no clue what you just said?
Are you always waiting for your turn to speak instead of really listening?
Are you going through the motions or are you thinking about what you are doing?
Do you go somewhere and wonder how you got there?
Being mindful, means slowing down and enjoying the journey!
At work, if I am overwhelmed by a very full day, sometimes I have a tendency to worry about what's ahead, instead of enjoying what is right in front of me at the moment. I work very hard on being present at the time, taking one thing at a time, one interaction at a time. In the past, I wasn't so good at being present, I don't have many memories of my past from age 8-30 and believe it's because I was always worried, always performing instead of genuinely living in the moment, enjoying the present!
Keep your vision alive, see it, dream it, think it, speak it, write it, learn about it, get it! Take responsibility for where you are and quit making excuses why you aren't where you want to be... Start now, unlock more of your potential, you are gifted with greatness within!
Every time I'm faced with the thought of giving up, I fight back!
The opinions of others are just that, opinions, it makes the other person no better than you, don't let their opinion determine your future! When you have a dream, a vision, it's unique to you, no one else may understand it because it isn't theirs to understand! They may think you are crazy bc they aren't you and don't have the same vision. Don't let that deter you, go after what you believe in, but be willing to do the work! Just bc you decide to do something doesn't mean it will be easy, it will require sacrifice, effort, experience, and time, but if you never give up, you will get there in time! Everything good takes time!
Be patient, be mindful, take responsibility, get focused, push back harder, unlock more of your potential, enjoy the journey!
Become the best version of you!
Everyday won't always be your best day, but it's up to you to make the best of each day!
I probably should just skip my workout today!
I left the house prepped and ready to do my running workout after work...
Unfortunately, while I was working, I had been thinking of all the excuses I could come up with to skip the workout today. I simply didn't feel like doing it, my motivation was lacking today, reaching my goals wasn't on my mind, in fact I didn't care about goals at all today. It would be an easy out, no one would notice or care if I didn't do my workout as planned... I could skip out, but I knew doing so wasn't getting me any closer to my goals, nor was it what the strong person inside of me would really want!
I knew in my mind, at that moment, I didn't care about my plans but I also realized my apathetic feelings were temporary; though very real at the time, they crept in because of something else going on in my mind that was bringing me down. I needed to see my workout through and later address what's got me down.
I continually talked back to the voice trying to sabotage my plans!
A strong willed, determined person will find a way to see it through!
The conversation in my head probably went something like this,
"I can do it! Nah, it doesn't matter. I'd rather go home, I'm tired.
I will do it! Yeah, tomorrow is another day. I will feel more like exercising tomorrow.
I am strong! I'm strong enough for now.
Get your butt over there and just do it! You will feel better when you are done.
You may not like it now, but you will later."
Some days you will just go through the motions...
Seriously, the workout was intended to be simply 20minutes, 4, five minute intervals. Every five minute interval I endured, I also thought about stopping. I also wondered when the heck my endorphins would kick in, I was waiting for an energy surge to take over my mind!
The endorphins never kicked in, but I never gave up!
Thankfully, I had written the workout up previously so I followed the plan as it was stated until I was finished. If I didn't have that written plan, most likely I would have had a harder time sticking it out.
It's days like this that help us see how bad we really want to reach new achievements!
Now, I can say I didn't give in, I didn't give up... I persevered!
We all have these thoughts, learn to talk back👍🏼 it matters!
Thoughts, words, actions, they all matter!
Everyday you have a Choice! It starts with your Attitude. Don't give in to your "craving" to satisfy a feeling in the "here and now," dig deep and recognize that you've got bigger plans. Understand that you may have to be somewhat uncomfortable now, in order to feel better later!
Positive is Powerful! Persevere!
When I feel unhappy, stagnant, or challenged, I also feel hopeless.
As time continues on, enduring the highs and lows of my emotions, I am learning to change my thoughts, actions and feelings. More recently, I've been able to transform my hopelessness and harness a will to find my purpose.
Something inside me is pushing me to find more, to try something new, to become better, to unlock more of my potential!
I ride the highs and lows, but sometimes I get stuck in the low.
Years ago, the lows took control of me, and
I couldn't find hope, desire, excitement, positive or a will to try to push on.
in order to move onward and upward it was going to require work, hard work.
I needed to change my thinking!
It required professional help, constant attention, total focus and family support. My journey toward becoming more positive is continuous, it's a constant fight, a daily mind game to find hope and happiness!
Fortunately, with each up and down, I've become better at redirecting myself back to hopeful!
When I start to really get off track, I have to take a closer look at what I can change, what I may be doing that is causing me turmoil, and configure a plan to improve it!
It all starts with my attitude!
I have trouble doing this on my own, so I use motivational quotes, inspiration from social media and
work on what I say and think throughout the day.
One very powerful way I set myself up to enjoy my day is by
"telling myself it's going to be a great day!"
I also tell myself "I get to... Instead of "I have to."
I get to make a difference today."
It all starts with my attitude! If I believe it will be a good day, I will look for the positives, but if I loathe the thought of what my day may entail, I will most likely focus on all the negatives.
How do you start your day? What motivates you to seize the day?
We are all at different stages of our journey and each of us will have different motivations for waking up. What are you doing to get yourself excited, to motivate yourself to get up and get started? What do you do so you look forward to the day ahead, instead of pressing snooze, rolling over and wishing you would have gotten up sooner. We are all comfy when the alarm goes off, who wouldn't want to stay there all warm and snuggled... some will find the power to get out and move on, others will stay in bed.
What will it be, stay in bed, or seize the day ?
Last FEBRUARY I decided to take control of my life.
My world no longer had balance:
it was mostly just work, mostly helping others and forgetting about myself.
Finding my happiness wasn't going to happen overnight either.
Last year, I came across a quote on Pinterest, "I just woke up and decided I didn't want to feel that way, so I changed" which started my transition to a happier place. It resonated with me, and I used it as my driving force.
OUR MINDS ARE POWERFUL, powerful beyond measure
From my past experiences, I realize the importance of words, how powerful they are when read, when spoken out loud or silently in my head. I also realize the power of our minds, so powerful beyond measure. Truly, our brains believe what we hear, whether internally spoken or out loud. So I began to remind myself daily with positive affirmations spoken silently to myself, out loud to my team, or read in words.
The more and more we say, think and feel these affirmations, the more we believe them but the converse is true as well.
Pinterest and YouTube have become my "go to" for daily inspiration.
Words are so powerful,
YOUR MIND IS MORE POWERFUL
Even better, we have the power to control what we think, say and feel through words
but even more importantly,
it starts with your attitude.
So, everyday I would take a few moments to lift myself up,
to remind myself of what I was trying to accomplish and focus on it throughout the day!
We have the power to control how our day will unfold by choosing our attitude!
FIND YOUR HAPPINESS and BALANCE!
Each day, there are a few things that I did in order to regain my happiness! If you want to hear how I managed to finish 2015, through the obstacles, the struggles, the challenges, the highs and lows of life,
I will share that with you in my next blog post! You too can have your best year yet!
FROM: DISORDERED EATING and
THROUGH ANXIETY and DEPRESSION
which finds its host in many ways...like Total Body PAIN.
WORRY and HOPELESSNESS
unable to find joy or hope in anything. Limited memories of the past, mostly only the sad stuff.
To Finding HEALTHY, HAPPINESS and HOPE!
Achievement takes time, effort, perseverance, hard work, commitment, determination and constant attention to the task at hand. I find it best to achieve my goals when I am surrounded by a team. We may not all be reaching to make the same accomplishments, but knowing we are all trying and going through similar emotions, makes it so much easier to endure!
I've always encouraged my participants to step outside their comfort zones, to find courage to believe they can achieve something new, to believe in their own visions, to persevere... and this time, I realized I hadn't stepped outside my comfort zone in a long time.
In February, I realized it had been almost six years since my trip to the hospital, when I had given up hope...
this happened to be the same weekend I was supposed to be participating in the Blackbear Triathlon, so the last time I actually trained for some kind of competition. SINCE THEN, my goal has been to simply figure out how to Be Happy, genuinely happy! Not the fake smile on the outside but pain on the inside... Just Happy!
Along the way, through the peaks and valleys, rises and falls, I've been learning how to be proud of who I am, learning how to rise above the negativity that may surround me, learning how to appreciate what I do, learning how to live for me and not to seek approval from someone else, learning how to change negative thoughts, behaviors and actions into positive ones. I've been learning to love me, learning to enjoy the journey, to appreciate the moment, learning to accept that we are not born to be perfect, , learning to live happy, learning to be the best me!
During this time of recovery, I actually couldn't train for anything because I couldn't exercise. I managed to get two concussions within two weeks of each other and it took two years, until I could exercise with a high heart rate and not get sick from doing so.
I believe there is a lesson in everything, a purpose; sometimes we can figure out what that purpose is immediately, other times the lesson appears over time. It's important to keep moving and find a positive even if it seems unimaginable. One of my lessons was learned when got my concussions. I thought it wasn't possible to be healthy and fit if I couldn't "train," but it turned out, I had a lot to learn. I was able to see from another perspective, a view which I otherwise may not have taken the time to see, the view from someone who may not prefer to train like an athlete, but from someone who prefers a different form of conditioning. There are many different types of exercising to choose from, one form is not better than another, it is a matter of finding what you enjoy and creating a balance. Eventually, I found a new love for my different exercise classes! Instead of crosstrain and athletic competition, I enjoy Tabata, Intervals, Rowing, Spinning, and even the dreaded planks and abdominal exercises I once loathed!
At an early FitBody Meeting, it occurred to me I was asking my participants to do something that I had not asked of myself in a long time ... to strive for more, to set new goals, to try something new! I had been going through the motions of exercising daily and eating well (according to my standards of eating well), but I wasn't training with a purpose in mind, a future goal. This is when I decided it was time to train, time to challenge myself to reach new levels of performance!
Believe it or not, over the past 6 years, I have also found a way to love my body with or without toned arms, with some extra mid-section fat and fuller cheeks! Even though I may not be as attractive, or successful, to some people in my "bigger" body, I am still Happy, and comfortable in my skin!
I have found a time frame works for me, a training plan, a beginning and an end... some "time off" from the rigidity is necessary to re-group so that I do not become obsessed with my eating habits or addicted to exercising.
I also realize, when I return to the plan, it won't be easy, it will once again take the time it took to get started like it did back in February! Forming new habits takes time, reaching new goals does too!
20lbs down from Feb to June...
Basically 1lb per week for 20 weeks.
I am leaner and appear to be more toned.
I Am Eating More and Drinking More!
How did I do it?
Small goals, a support system, and a deep seeded determination!
My Exercise: My spinning, rowing, tabata, intervals, spin & tone and crosstrain classes, like I had been doing in the past. I added swimming laps in twice a week during March, April, and May, and running on the treadmill 20min 2-3x/week.
My Eating: Pre-workout snack, Post workout Protein (which I wasn't doing prior), Breakfast Smoothie, Lunch and Dinner always with a lean protein, spinach or mixed greens, and berries and veggies for snacks with hummus! I also ate a lot of guacamole! Many many times I would skip meals, or choose something quick or fast food. As for eating, I made a conscious decision to grocery shop every week, prepare my meals and snacks and learn to use the grill!
In the beginning, it was hard to stick to my plans of adding additional exercise, or doing the exercises I didn't really love! I would have to ask my friends/teammates to make sure I got my butt on the treadmill when I said I was going to, even though the thought seemed so difficult to do! It was hard to make better/smarter food choices, but with time and the help of MyFitnessPal, I was able to really understand how food was becoming my fuel and the importance of refueling for recovering and preparation for the next day! I quickly realized, I was eating more, basically, eating myself slimmer.
Everyday, when I wake up, I look at Pinterest! I read positive, motivational quotes, I look at pictures that motivate me, as well as healthy foods and recipes!
Everyday, I remind myself that I have a choice, and I am choosing to make changes.
I realize willpower will only get me so far... Since there are days when we may not be strong enough to fight the negative, self sabotaging voice... The voice that says to skip the workout, to slow down, to give up. In order to fight the desire to skip a meal due to laziness, or eat something for a quick fix due to being unprepared, I realize I need to have a plan in place!
Every day I think about my future goals!
Everyday, I give myself credit for the effort I am putting forth to achieve my goals! I recognize what I may be doing differently this time, in order to achieve my goals, instead of let them take a back seat.
Everyday, I log my food intake on MyFitnessPal. This is a great measurement tool. I measured the percent of carbs, proteins and fats I was consuming, as well as the total amount of sugar that included. From this, I realized, although I thought I was eating healthy, I was consuming too much sugar, and too much fat! I was trying to consume the least amount of sugar, and 40%carb, 30%Protein, and 30%fat. This varied a bit, depending on my training as I progressed into the plan!
Everyday, I take my supplements! Vitamins! BCAA powders for recovering/endurance!
I plan for the week ahead! I look at my schedule and figure out what, when, and how I will be doing the necessary work to achieve my goals.
Every weekend, I add an additional small goal to attack.
Every Sunday, I go grocery shopping, even the days I preferred to skip. If I wasn't prepared with food for the week, I would be setting myself up to fail!
In the end, it comes down to what you put into your body. Do you have the desire to make a change? Are you willing to make changes and stick to them, not excuses?
I've basically altered my exercise slightly, but my diet tremendously!
A big point I'd like to make is this :
Find the type of exercise that motivates you, something you enjoy and look forward to. I don't believe any one form is better than another. Sometimes, depending on your goal, there may be better options, but ultimately, if your goal has anything to do with how you feel? How you perform? How you look?, it comes down to food consumption.
What do I consume?
Certainly not 1200calories! Nor do I ever feel deprived or starved. I eat real, whole foods, closest to their natural state. I consume some vitamins and minerals. In doing so, my body is finding balance and doesn't have cravings for foods I once thought I couldn't live without! Ice cream, flavored coffee creamer, and quesadilla's!
It takes time!
I just saw a quote, "don't compare your week 1, to someone else's week 20!"
This is perfect bc achieving lasting results happens by making small changes over time, not trying to be perfect at the starting gate!
Getting on track:
People often say, that's it, I'll start tomorrow, I'll start Monday, I'll start next week, next month... Then, they try to make a complete overhaul.... Only to find they eventually give up and fail at their attempt. I truly believe success is possible if you break it down, talk positively to yourself, recognize you will have setbacks, and enjoy the journey.
Having a team is what gets you started! It helps see you through the trying times when you would otherwise give up!
IT ALL COMES DOWN TO NUTRITION...
is... I LIKE IT!
LOVE THE JOURNEY!
POSITIVE IS POWERFUL I DO DECLARE! 😃
I do not see the world through rose colored glasses; I do not believe everything is perfect, nor will it be, even if I smile and pretend it is, I know it's not. The only way I can learn to view my daily life in a positive way, is by learning to look for positive in every situation. I view everything as an opportunity! Each opportunity is a means to becoming better. I believe that everything happens for a reason, during difficult times I look for a lesson, a purpose.
It's not like turning a switch and deciding that because you say so, you are going to behave in a positive way, you are going to think in a positive way, or act in a positive manner. Learning to change your thoughts, learning to become more positive takes hard work everyday...EVERYDAY!
It's been a constant battle which I fight daily.
I know that just as talking, thinking, and believing the negative thoughts I come up with in my mind,
it can and will tear me down,
I also now know that speaking positively, finding purpose in every situation,
I can be happy using positive thoughts and actions!
What the heck am I talking about?
Positive is being kind! Recognizing that we are all different and it's a good thing. It takes a team of all different kinds of people to accomplish great things, which is why DF is such a fantastic community! We recognize that we are all different, we all have strengths and weaknesses and support one another as we become better versions of who we are born to be, through various modes of training.
Positive is having Respect.
Respecting everyone, and treating one another with kindness doesn't mean we all have to be friends. It means smiling, holding your head up with confidence, holding the door, saying please and thank you; having manners.
I seriously can't stand when someone walks directly past me and acts as if I am invisible and not there. We are all walking this planet together, can you at least just acknowledge that we are here, smile and perhaps say hello?!
Positive is Helping Other People!
When you help others without expecting anything in return, you actually are helping yourself too.
Positive is having courage!
Having courage to stand alone, stand up for what you believe, for what you like, for what you want. Having courage is stepping outside your comfort zone and trying something new.
Positive is enjoying the journey; living in the moment, but knowing there are goals and dreams that are ahead!
Positive is reflecting, taking time to give yourself credit daily!
At night, I take a moment to think about everything/everyone I've encountered that day, including what I am grateful for and what makes me happy!
Positive is choosing my attitude!
I have the power to choose how my day will unfold by choosing my attitude. I choose to see the positive. I choose to be happy.
Positive is seeing from another perspective!
Positive is choosing to become the best version of myself regardless of anyone else's opinion! It's their opinion, they are free to have it, I don't have to like it, nor do they have to accept me! I need to accept me and be willing to stand up for myself, and stand up for what I want or need!
If I asked you to take a look back into your past, how would you see yourself?
When I think about my past, I often see myself as very sad. Although on the outside I was smiling, on the inside I was crying. So when I look back at my past, I see myself standing on the outside of the memory looking in, looking at myself, remembering how sad I was. It saddens me to know that I went so many years never truly being present in my world, always worrying about how I was "performing" in life, worrying what other people thought of me, worrying why I felt like I never truly fit in. Although I was very talented, I never allowed myself to accept awards or grades as achievement, rather I never felt they were truly earned, instead just given. I actually have a huge box filled with medals, trophies, plaques, awards, and pictures all turned upside down, in my parents attic. I didn't want them, I didn't believe they were real, or hard to obtain. I didn't realize I made great accomplishments instead I brushed them off as if anyone could get them. It literally made me physically sick thinking about being different, never fitting in, and telling myself that over and over again.
Overtime, my mind learned to focus only on negative things, never allowing myself to be proud of who I was.
The mind is so powerful, and by focusing all of my thoughts on negative and worry, that is what consumed me. I found myself in a deep dark place, walking amongst the world, feeling like a body on the outside, while everyone else walked on the inside. I developed a social anxiety, eating/exercise disorder, and manic depression.
SO HOW DID I FIND POSITIVE?
The story is long, both in the prior elements to how I found negative and how I climbed out of my dark hole, so I will sum it up. We all have stories! I am thankful for the support of my family helping me out of my hole, but in doing so, i had to be an active participant. I finally realized that if my mind was powerful enough to understand negative so well, it also could find positive, by doing the opposite of everything I did prior! I have learned that we are all blessed with our own unique talents, and i am gifted to have something that differs from others. I have learned to celebrate who I am, and work to becoming the best version of me, no one else! I have learned to be proud of the little things I do along the way to develop my story!
I am proud to say, that completing the BlackBear Triathlon at Beltzville was a milestone for me. I was able to finish with a smile, which wasn't a regular thing of my past, and I was also able to say I am proud of myself. Proud of what i did though-out the journey of training, proud of overcoming the race day hurdles, proud of myself for giving my best effort.
I wanted you to know why we celebrate Positive is Powerful!
Sometimes I wonder if people make assumptions about what the meaning is behind Positive is Powerful. I drive around with a Positive is Powerful sticker on my car and I wonder if people think I am nuts, if they laugh and think I view the world through "rose colored glasses?" It doesn't bother me to know people are making assumptions and perhaps judge me, but in the past it may have! By learning to find Positive, I have been able to take myself from the darkest of places to being an active, productive member of society.
I believe in being honest. I am genuine and caring. I am finding that by being me, and being confident, I am helping others to do so as well! Find what moves you, be proud of who you are! We are all born different!
They say if you don't like something, change it! Here is one of the quotes I live by, "be the change you wish to see in the world!"
Postive is Spreading Through the DF Community One Person at a Time! Has Positive Impacted YOU?!?!?!?!?!?
Anyone that knows my dad understands he doesn't speak much, a very quiet person! When he chooses to speak, it is usually important, but if he is pointing while speaking in a loud stern voice, its then, you better be listening closely because he is saying something profound! I was always crying, so as he spoke I continued to cry and cry unable to believe I could enjoy everyday or even more, want to enjoy everyday. He said, "Kerri, You make your life what you want it to be wherever you are." I listened, I heard, but I didn't believe him, however I never forgot those words.
It was years of constant struggle, a constant battle in my mind: positive self talk, followed by my negative echo: from as early as eight years old. I didn't know at the time I had a negative echo, what I knew was that I had a negative voice constantly telling me I didn't fit in, I wasn't good enough, I wasn't pretty, too fat, I could go on; understand if it was a negative thought, I thought it and believed it! It doesn't help when you lose faith, regardless of what your faith is, without it, you have no purpose, nothing driving you to Live!
I woke up, in a hospital where my loving, caring brother had taken me. In an attempt to escape from a feeling of hopelessness; causing constant nausea, crying, aches and pains, irrational thinking, bad decisions, I chose to consume too much medication (anti-anxiety) coupled with alcohol. The doctor said I had to be placed in an in-patient, psychiatric unit. I flipped! I had been training for a big triathlon and wasting time in a hospital was not in my pre-race plans. He was adamant, and I was placed in the hospital. (I realized after days of walking and running the halls, doing push-ups and sit-ups that this was in their eyes, crazy behavior and if I planned to get out of there I needed to tone it down!) Colored pencils and paper proved to be very soothing! I managed to convince them that I was feeling fine, just like I did to everyone that I surrounded myself with in my daily life! The difference is, I knew I wasn't, and I refused to leave the hospital until they enlisted me in their outpatient behavioral health program! This was the life changing event for me! I chose to listen to what the therapists were teaching; how to recognize our thoughts, feelings and actions, then make changes so the outcome is different than we had in the past. Make no mistake, changes do not happen overnight, nor do they take place without constant attention, hard work, and a support system. It has been five years of constant attention to my thoughts, feelings, and actions... but I can finally say, I believe you dad!
Positive is Powerful!
It's not about moving away, or complaining about everyone and everything around you, or generalizing everyone as a stereotype you made up in your mind... It's about taking initiative for who you are, what you are doing and choosing to make changes to enjoy everyday right where you are! It's about being proud of who you are and your unique qualities and talents, not comparing yourself to others, or trying to "fit-in." Opportunities... to enjoy each day, to learn, to grow, to develop...are all around us, everyday! Look around and see the great people, there are many!!! Stop focusing and wasting your energy on those that frustrate you... Look at the gorgeous views surrounding you, its truly beautiful! stop looking for what's "wrong" with it, and the reasons you want to escape..
Re-focus! Live a life you don't need to vacation from!
Start paying attention to what you say to yourself and to the people around you! Pay so much attention to becoming the best version of you, to improving the immediate community around you that you have no time or energy to worry or speak about someone else.
You are in control!!! you make your life what you want it to be regardless of where you are! So start Living! Make this the best year of your life! Celebrate your individuality! Embrace who you are and become the best version of yourself! Stop making excuses, and start making changes! Look for the positives, they are there!
Positive is Powerful!
You have a choice to be happy!
My nana gave me a small, silver coin I kept with me at all times. On it, it said, "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference." Whether you believe in god or have faith in something else, the words are wise. We must understand there are things we cannot change, and there are things we can. The key is to learn there is a difference and act accordingly!
Why do I speak about the importance of positive self talk to our youth and adults wherever I get the opportunity?
I know I'm not alone and by speaking up and letting others know they too have the power to be happy regardless of their current situation, I may help just one person find the courage to start listening to their positive voice and taking appropriate action to learn to stop the negative echo. I want to help someone understand they should be proud of who they are, who they were born to be; to encourage them to become the best version of themselves!
Positive is Powerful!
See from a different perspective!